When nobody believes in you!

It usually starts with the ones close to you. Your wife/husband, sister, brother, mother, father and close friend etc. They start to hint things. You may have several attempts at certain projects, small or large with some success or no success. One by one they will start advising rather than seeking advice, without your asking. All of a sudden they become the authority in all your initiatives; even for the ones you are well qualified for.

You start to feel failed, small and suspect your own ability. This game goes on for a while until you think you are useless, a total disaster and question your life from a negative perspective. If you are in a long period of soul searching, you had it big time. They may even influence your children if you have any and cause them to lose their respect for you or look at you with pity.

When all this going on and you really think something is wrong with you, even if you are penniless, jobless, homeless, with nobody around you, you have to believe in yourself. Nobody can help you but YOU.

Nobody else is the answer, only YOU. You are the key to your own well being and responsible for your actions either in good way or the other. Take no notice of all the negativity thrown at you, get down to business and start to take actions for moving forward.

Has it ever crossed your mind that there is a bigger plan for you? Maybe you have been going against your purpose in this short period of life on planet earth. Maybe you have been prepared for the bigger cause and your rough edges needed to be rasped.

Don’t fake it until you make it. Fakes are never matching the originals. Be your authentic self; never ever lose your dignity and honour. There are things you can’t buy with money and once lost cannot be replaced with anything and your dignity and honour are amongst those.

Start now; there is never better time than NOW. Go for a walk, sit in a whatever place makes you feel good, watch, observe flow of life. Draw yourself out of it; watch it from a distance for a while. Go back to your base wherever that maybe and start planning, setting up your goals and writing your action plans. Life is good so treat it that way. Believe in yourself because nobody else will unless you do.

Isa Alemdag

Saturday, 16 August 2014